Whether you need to maintain a relationship with a toxic person or not (boss, spouse, family members, team member), there are many ways to respond to their negative, demeaning, bullying, blaming, and self-righteous words and behaviors that will help you manage your stress.
Do not engage them by explaining your position--you should know by now, they know everything, they are always right and you don’t know what you are talking about. They most likely won’t let you finish your sentences anyway. Because their way is always right, they are mostly unaware of how mean their delivery is. Instead of falling into self-doubt by their manipulation, know that you are as amazing as you have always been, and you can stay strong, confident, kind and peaceful by controlling your reactions and responses. This includes not dwelling on their words.
Next time somebody tries to make you feel bad about yourself, try one of these seven responses on for size. They may interpret your response as agreeable or as an acknowledgment of their comment. Only you will know that is not the case. Your intention can be your little secret that makes you feel happy inside.
These responses work because they are words that you would use with anybody, toxic or not.
If you are in a relationship with a toxic person and you are starting to believe you can’t do anything right, well, you are under a spell. Snap out of it and find a healthier relationship. You are worth it. Avoid the toxic person when possible as your first-line strategy. Fortunately, we have choices—so choose your friends and partners wisely and love with all your heart! Who we love, is who we (in part) become.
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